..續本文上一頁er getting married, due to differences in thinking and behavior, many conflicts arise. What he likes I do not like, what I like he does not like, and quarrels easily occur. At such times, one should try to be as tolerant as possible. Otherwise if both sides fixate on a view, there would definitely be more future conflicts.

　　You have to know that your thinking is not necessarily always correct. What you feel to be good and try desperately to push on to the other person perhaps does suit him. Therefore, when we are with anyone, it is very important to go with the flow.

　　Even when you travel and stay in a hotel, one likes to switch the light on, and the other likes to switch it off. If bad temper is involved, then even on such a small matter, a huge quarrel may ensue, resulting in much suffering. But if you know how to go with the flow, then he is happy, and you are also happy.

　　Nowadays many families are not harmonious and there are talks of porce all the time. It is perhaps due to differences in personalities. One wants to have congee for lunch, yet the other insists on having noodles. Then when the conversation becomes disagreeable, a quarrel starts, which may even end in a fight. Is this necessary

　　 Not necessary. So we must learn how to go with the flow with all beings.

　　(7) Question: If I practice the Sutrayana first, then the Tantrayana; or if I practice both at the same time, would that affect the results of practice

　　Reply: It would not. In fact, in Tibetan Buddhism, all practices seamlessly merge Sutrayana and Tantrayana. It is not possible to just practice one and not the other. Sutrayana and Tantrayana are inseparably interconnected. It would not be an issue to practice both at the same time.

　　There are those today who do not understand Buddhism, who often claim that Sutrayana and Tantrayana are like fire and water and do not mix. They even believe that Tibetan Buddhism only has Tantrayana. This view is very irrational. In fact, Tibetan Buddhism requires the practice of both Sutrayana and Tantrayana. Those of us from the Buddhist Institute have all studied Sutrayana sutras and sastras such as the Heart Sutra and the Diamond Sutra. There is none who only practices Tantrayana.

　　Hence, those who do not understand Sutrayana and Tantrayana teachings should refrain from speaking carelessly. All teachings of the Buddha can be brought together seamlessly.

　　(8) Question: What is the difference between a Bodhisattva”s dream and an ordinary person”s dream

　　Reply: There are big differences between the two. For example, a Bodhisattva would not be attached to any forms and manifestations encountered during the day. When dreaming at night, a Bodhisattva also often journey to pure Buddha lands, and can turn various dream states into practices, unlike our dreams with all kinds of mental afflictions.

　　(9) Question: When I am practicing patience, I feel that I should let the other person know his mistake, and tell him that he was not right. I am not sure if this is the right way to practice

　　Reply: If your intention is pure, and you do not wish for his bad behavior to continue, then that is fine. But if there is a selfish motivation, and you felt anger towards him, then that is not advisable.

　　(10) Question: Many of us have listen to your Dharma talks online, and we all feel great joy. Our shared question is: if we wish to follow you to the Buddhist Institute to study, what requirements are there

　　 How do we go about this

　　Reply: The Buddhist Institute is at high altitude without convenient accommodation. Many people experience altitude sickness when they go there. Thus, it isn”t absolutely necessary that you go to the Buddhist Institute. Studying through the web and through DVDs are also very good.

　　Also, the Dharma talks I give at the B…

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