..续本文上一页of things. But if we get married, then it is no longer such a big deal. After a while we may even want to get some distance between us - maybe even go and ordain! - but then we can”t.

　　It”s like a hunter tracking a deer. When he first spots the deer, he is excited. Everything about the deer interests him, the ears, the tail, everything. The hunter becomes very happy. His body is light and alert. He is only afraid the deer will get away.

　　It”s the same here. When a man sees a woman he likes, or a woman sees a man, everything is so intriguing, the sight, the voice - we fixate on them, can”t tear ourselves away, looking and thinking as much as we can, to the point where it takes control of our heart. Just like the hunter. When he sees the deer, he is excited. He becomes anxious that it will see him. All his senses are heightened, and he takes extreme enjoyment from it. Now his only concern is that the deer might get away. What the deer really is, he doesn”t know. He hunts it down and finally shoots and kills it. Then his work is done. Arriving at the place where the deer has fallen, he looks at it: ””Oh, it”s dead.”” He”s not very excited anymore - it”s just some dead meat. He can cook some of the meat and eat it, then he will be full, and there”s not much more to it. Now he sees the parts of the deer, and they don”t excite him so much anymore. The ear is only an ear. He can pull the tail, and it”s only a tail. But when it was alive, oh boy! He wasn”t indifferent then. Seeing the deer, watching its every movement, was totally engrossing and exciting, and he couldn”t bear the thought of it getting away.

　　We are like this, aren”t we

　　 The form of an attractive person of the opposite sex is like this. When we haven”t yet captured it, we feel it is unbearably beautiful. But if we end up living together with that person, we get tired of them. Like the hunter who has killed the dear and can now freely touch the ear or take hold of the tail. There”s not much to it anymore, no excitement once the animal is dead. When we are married, we can fulfill our desires, but it is no longer such a big thing, and we end up looking for a way out.

　　So we don”t really consider things thoroughly. I feel that if we do contemplate, we will see that there isn”t really much there, not anything more than what I just described. It”s only that we make more out of things than they really are. When we see a body, we feel we will be able to consume every piece of it, the ears, the eyes, the nose.... The way our thinking runs wild, we might even get the idea that the person we are attracted to will have no shit. I don”t know, maybe they think that way in the West.... We get the idea there won”t even be shit, or maybe just a little.... We want to eat the whole thing. We over-estimate; it”s not really like that. It”s like a cat stalking a mouse. Before it catches the mouse, the cat is alert and focused. When it pounces and kills the mouse, it”s not so keen anymore. The mouse is just lying there dead, and the cat loses interest and goes on its way.

　　It”s only this much. The imagination makes it out to be more than it is. This is where we perish, because of our imagination. Ordained persons have to forbear more than others here, in the realm of sensuality. Kāma means lusting. Desiring evil things and desiring good are a kind of lusting, but here it refers to desiring those things that attract us, meaning sensuality. It is difficult to get free of.

　　When Ānanda asked the Buddha, ””After the Tathāgata has entered Nibbāna, how should we practice mindfulness

　　 How should we conduct ourselves in relation to women

　　 This is an extremely difficult matter; how would the Lord advise us to practise mindfulness here

　　””

　　The Buddha replied, ””Ānanda! It is better that yo…

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