以柔制刚，以弱胜强
Overcoming Hardness With Softness,
Conquering Strength With Weakness
一瓣香 记录 Transcribed by Yi Ban-syang
宣化上人一九九三年四月六日开示于长堤圣寺
南无萨怛他苏伽多耶阿啰诃帝三藐三菩陀写 (三称)
我先问你们一个问题，假如有人骂长堤圣寺，你们应该如何对付这个人？你们说一说你们的意见我听听，快点！你们不要拖泥带水的。(有人答：笑骂由他。)还有谁怎么说的？(有人答：跟他说谢谢。)什么？(有人答：跟他说我们再做好一点。)他说什么？还有谁怎么说？(有人答：不理他。)还有什么？谁怎么说？你们都是没有勇气的喔！(有人答：此即成吾善知识。)眞能这样子吗？(有人答：先忏悔，再送他一尊佛像，让他与佛有缘，不再骂了。)他会听你的吗？(众笑)这是大家研究问题的性质，所以谁都可以发言，谁有什么见解，都可以把它说出来，大家来研究，看看哪一个是正确的？(恒月：可请他进来喝茶。)你请他进来，他若把你佛像给砸烂了呢？(众笑)这是谁说的？这要报过名的，你们谁说什么要报过名。(恒月：果桂。)果桂呀！你尽在月亮里头，怎么能把他请进来？(众笑)这个问题，我在各处讲法说了多少次，他若骂长堤圣寺，你们给他叩三个头；若骂你们的师父，你给他叩九个头。(众笑)这也真是我的徒弟，也是真正给他说法呢！所以我说你们没有勇气，不是要你们和人打架，和人骂架，势不两立，不是那个方法，是这个方法。现在我问你们的问题，你们还有谁怎么答复吗？不，我已经说破了，就不问你们的答复了，你们再有谁答复，都不算了。因为这个天机一泄漏了，你再学的方法就不太灵了。
游正华：师父上人，如果有人来毁谤长堤圣寺，或是毁谤师父，师父认为我们应该给对方叩头。这个事情，我有一点点想法，不知道对不对？要请师父指正。因为佛法，当然我们应该像师父所说的，他笑我们、骂我们，我们不管他，在内心的清净上、在修行上，应该是要这样子做，我认为绝对是有道理的。但是在世间法里面，要推展佛法的工作，你如果能够广度众生，让他尽可能的，有因缘踏入佛门，我们要排除其他不必要的磨擦。所以，如果有人骂我，我就跟他做适当的沟通，让他了解；若无办法，佛法讲缘，若无缘，则不强求。若经协调而令他回心转意，他本因不了解才毁谤，若解释明白，这个事可能马上化除。化除后，对方对我们生好感，则长堤圣寺能减少一层障碍，在佛教工作的推展上，也能一帆风顺。因人生无常，若你有大抱负，却遇到有人作对时，要做适当排除，才能把度众生的菩提心发起。若我们一直等待，也不讲了，由它发展，他会觉得我们不回手、不解释，那就是他说对了，旁人也会以为他对，而护持他，则无形中我们的障碍越来越大，所以如此恶性循环下，很困难推展佛教。师父是很慈悲，但在推广佛法的角度上，我觉得还是积极一点好。(众鼓掌)
上人：你的话我也赞成，不过事情有种种的因缘。我讲的是不动刀兵，不动唇舌而息战争；是以柔制刚，以弱胜强。我们佛教里头就是以柔来制刚的。我方才说的道理，我知道我们这一班人一个也不能做到的！(众笑)没有一个可以听人骂长堤圣寺，他会给磕三个头的，你们信不信哪？不过这个方法是很不容易用的，但是你用上来，可真有效验。因为我们不和人争，他自己就会生大惭愧了，回去他一想，为什么我骂人家道场，道场的人听见，对我叩几个头，这是什么意思？他会想一想。可是这种以柔克刚、以弱胜强的方法，很多人都不会用的。很多人都要以刚克刚，以强对强。这个问题就是真能小下来，才真能大起来；你真到至柔了，才能制服至刚的，所以我是间接是这样子，但是说出这个法来，很多人都不肯用的，所以说了也等于没有说一样。
Ven. Master Hua”s Lectures at Long Beach Monastery on April 6. 1993
Na Mwo Sa Dan Two Su Chye Dwo Ye E La He Di San Myau San Pu Two Sye (3x)
First let me ask you all a question. If someone were to criticize Long Beach Sagely Monastery, how should you respond to him
Let me hear what your opinions are, quickly! Don”t drag your heels. (Someone answers: He can laugh or scold as he pleases.) Ah, and what do other people say
(Someone answers: We can thank him.) What was that
(Someone answers: Tell him we will do better.) What did he say
Who else has an opinion
(Someone answers: Pay no attention to him.) What else
Who has an opinion
None of you have any courage! (Someone answers: He is my Good and Wise Teacher.) Ah, can you really see him that way
(Someone answers: First, repent. Then give him an image of the Buddha, so that he will have an affinity with the Buddha, and stop scolding.) Will he really listen to you
(Everyone laughs.) Now is the time for all of us to investigate this question, so anyone can speak out. Whoever has a viewpoint can express it, and everyone can evaluate it and decide which view is the proper one. (Heng Ywe: We could invite him in for tea.) What if you ask him to come in and he just destroys the Buddha images
(Everyone laughs.) Who suggested this
You have to announce your name. Anyone who speaks has to announce his name. (Heng Ywe: Gwo Gwei.) Oh, Gwo Gwei! Gwo Gwei, you are always on the moon, so how can you invite him in
(Everyone laughs. Her name "Ywe" means moon.) I have spoken about this question countless times in my lectures. If someone curses Long Beach Sagely Monastery, you all should bow to him three times. If he scolds your Master, you can bow to him nine times. (Everyone laughs.) Then you are a true disciple of mine, and you are really speaking the Dharma for him as well! That”s why I said all of you have no courage. I don”t want you to fight and argue with him, as if he were your worst enemy. That”s not the way. This is the way. Does anyone still have an answer to the question I asked
No, I”ve already given it away, so I will not ask for your answers anymore. Any answers given now will not count, for the secret of Heaven has already been revealed. It…
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