入世第叁課
THE THIRD LESSON OF ENTERING THE SECULAR WORLD
楊钊
Author Charles Yeung
Translated by Soula Lo
青年人走入社會， 希望能夠自立， 要自立， 首先要解決衣、食、住、行問題，若衣、食、住、行都解決不了， 而去謀求其他問題，可以說是顛倒次序，次序顛倒就容易産生混亂；混亂則令身心不安，身心不安就容易令身體及其他方面出問題。所以，曆史的案例告訴我們，人生必須按部就班，才能健康地成長。人生成長的次序，首先要立志學習，其次是能夠自立，建立小康家庭，再其次是富裕起來。其中的道路應如何走，應該學習些什麼？實在不是一件簡單的事，在這裏姑且介紹一下其中的要點，社會上千樣萬種知識和本領，其中最基本最重要的兩種：其一爲做事，其二爲做人。因此人生之道首先是「處事待人」之道，至于如何處理事情，把事情辦好，重要一環是學會與人溝通，與人相處，只要學會與人相處，學會與人溝通，對把事情做好，有很大的幫助。而與人相處的首要條件是學會「吃虧」，學會退一步思考問題，此正所謂「退一步海闊天空」，有許多路可以走。所以古人提醒我們，與人相處的方法是：「讓他叁尺也無妨」，正是「千裏修書爲一牆，讓他叁尺也無妨，萬裏長城今猶在，不見當年秦始皇」，內容是古代有一人家去信告知在朝廷做大官的親戚說：鄰居把與自己房子相連的公共路的地，拿去建了房子，令路窄了。在朝廷做大官的親戚就回信告訴他們，他要占，便讓他占好了，甚至「再讓叁尺又何妨呢？」，結果其在鄉村的親屬真的把屋的圍牆退後叁尺，讓兩屋之間的路寬一點，而對方見到鄰居不僅不爭，反而讓步；因此，他也退後叁尺，令兩屋之間成爲一條寬闊的大路，一時成爲佳話，轟動全城，至今可說亦有千年曆史。
Young people entering society would hope to be independent. To be independent, first they need to solve their issues involved with clothing, food, residence, and transportation. If they cannot solve the issues of clothing, food, residence, and transportation, but plan to deal with other matters first, that would be in reverse order. Reversing the order tends to cause chaos easily and chaos would cause unsettlement in body and mind. When body and mind are unsettled, it could be easy to cause health problems and other issues. So, as some cases from history have told us, life”s progress must
go in a perfect order; it should progress step by step, in order to grow up healthily.
For the sequence of life”s progress, young people first need to be resolute on learning; second, make their life independent, which includes building a family of comfortable means, and then gradually become wealthy. How to walk through these paths, and what subjects should they learn
These are not an easy task to achieve. Here are a few key points I would like to introduce to them. There is thousands of knowledge and skills in the world, but the most basic and most important subjects are these two: One is to handle tasks; another is to get along with others.
Therefore, the way of life, first, it has to be the way of “handling tasks and getting along with others”. As for how to deal with tasks and get things done, the most important step is to learn to communicate with people and to get along with people. So long as we can get along with people and communicate with them, it can help us to get things done. As for the primary term of getting along with people, it is learning “to accept the unfavorable situation instead of taking advantages from other people”. Learn to take a step back to think of the issues. As the old saying said, “Take a step
back, the picture would be broader and boundless”, there are many paths available. So the ancients remind us, the best way to get along with people is, “Why not let him take three feet more
” which is from the old poem, “A letter travels a thousand miles for a fence only, why not let him take three feet more
Look at how The Great Wall still exists now, yet we do not see the first Emperor of the Qin.” This poem comes from an ancient story: Once upon a time, there was a family that sent a letter to tell their relative who had a high position in the court. The man wrote in his letter, “Our neighbor took the adjacent public land and built their house on it, which made the path between two houses even narrower.” The relative who was a high official in the court replied, “If he wants to take the land, just let him take it. Why not let him take three feet more
” Then the man of this family in the countryside took the high official”s advice and actually moved their fence three feet back in, which made the path between two houses a bit wider. The neighbor who took the public land saw that family not only didn”t confront him with this matter, but even made a concessi…
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