入世第三課
THE THIRD LESSON OF ENTERING THE SECULAR WORLD
杨钊
Author Charles Yeung
Translated by Soula Lo
青年人走入社会， 希望能够自立， 要自立， 首先要解决衣、食、住、行问题，若衣、食、住、行都解决不了， 而去谋求其他问题，可以说是颠倒次序，次序颠倒就容易产生混乱；混乱则令身心不安，身心不安就容易令身体及其他方面出问题。所以，历史的案例告诉我们，人生必须按部就班，才能健康地成长。人生成长的次序，首先要立志学习，其次是能够自立，建立小康家庭，再其次是富裕起来。其中的道路应如何走，应该学习些什么？实在不是一件简单的事，在这里姑且介绍一下其中的要点，社会上千样万种知识和本领，其中最基本最重要的两种：其一为做事，其二为做人。因此人生之道首先是「处事待人」之道，至于如何处理事情，把事情办好，重要一环是学会与人沟通，与人相处，只要学会与人相处，学会与人沟通，对把事情做好，有很大的帮助。而与人相处的首要条件是学会「吃亏」，学会退一步思考问题，此正所谓「退一步海阔天空」，有许多路可以走。所以古人提醒我们，与人相处的方法是：「让他三尺也无妨」，正是「千里修书为一墙，让他三尺也无妨，万里长城今犹在，不见当年秦始皇」，内容是古代有一人家去信告知在朝廷做大官的亲戚说：邻居把与自己房子相连的公共路的地，拿去建了房子，令路窄了。在朝廷做大官的亲戚就回信告诉他们，他要占，便让他占好了，甚至「再让三尺又何妨呢？」，结果其在乡村的亲属真的把屋的围墙退后三尺，让两屋之间的路宽一点，而对方见到邻居不仅不争，反而让步；因此，他也退后三尺，令两屋之间成为一条宽阔的大路，一时成为佳话，轰动全城，至今可说亦有千年历史。
Young people entering society would hope to be independent. To be independent, first they need to solve their issues involved with clothing, food, residence, and transportation. If they cannot solve the issues of clothing, food, residence, and transportation, but plan to deal with other matters first, that would be in reverse order. Reversing the order tends to cause chaos easily and chaos would cause unsettlement in body and mind. When body and mind are unsettled, it could be easy to cause health problems and other issues. So, as some cases from history have told us, life”s progress must
go in a perfect order; it should progress step by step, in order to grow up healthily.
For the sequence of life”s progress, young people first need to be resolute on learning; second, make their life independent, which includes building a family of comfortable means, and then gradually become wealthy. How to walk through these paths, and what subjects should they learn
These are not an easy task to achieve. Here are a few key points I would like to introduce to them. There is thousands of knowledge and skills in the world, but the most basic and most important subjects are these two: One is to handle tasks; another is to get along with others.
Therefore, the way of life, first, it has to be the way of “handling tasks and getting along with others”. As for how to deal with tasks and get things done, the most important step is to learn to communicate with people and to get along with people. So long as we can get along with people and communicate with them, it can help us to get things done. As for the primary term of getting along with people, it is learning “to accept the unfavorable situation instead of taking advantages from other people”. Learn to take a step back to think of the issues. As the old saying said, “Take a step
back, the picture would be broader and boundless”, there are many paths available. So the ancients remind us, the best way to get along with people is, “Why not let him take three feet more
” which is from the old poem, “A letter travels a thousand miles for a fence only, why not let him take three feet more
Look at how The Great Wall still exists now, yet we do not see the first Emperor of the Qin.” This poem comes from an ancient story: Once upon a time, there was a family that sent a letter to tell their relative who had a high position in the court. The man wrote in his letter, “Our neighbor took the adjacent public land and built their house on it, which made the path between two houses even narrower.” The relative who was a high official in the court replied, “If he wants to take the land, just let him take it. Why not let him take three feet more
” Then the man of this family in the countryside took the high official”s advice and actually moved their fence three feet back in, which made the path between two houses a bit wider. The neighbor who took the public land saw that family not only didn”t confront him with this matter, but even made a concessi…
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