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关系

自己

不要

多余

过问、插手

not

concerning

oneself

do not

in a meddlesome

to get involved

只要是和自己不相关的，都不要去管这些闲事。

　　If something is none of your business, it is best not to get involved.

　　要与人维持良好的关系，不但内在要诚信，外在也要有技巧。外在要有怎样的技巧呢？这可从讲话的语气、声调和讲话的态度两方面来讲。

　　If you want to maintain good relations with people, not only do you have to be sincere, you also have to be tactful. What does tact consist of

　　 We can discuss it in terms of the tone of voice and the attitude of speaking.

　　本章头两句是说﹕无论说什么话，都要「重且舒」。这是说讲话的态度，要庄重而和缓，但是也可以把它解释成语气要有重音，声调也要悠长。接下来的两句，讲话不要匆促急忙，也正是呼应前面所说的，讲话的态度要庄重和缓；讲话不要含糊笼统，也正是说讲话的语气要有重音，声调也要悠长。

　　The first verse says that no matter what you are saying, you should speak with a dignified manner and at a leisurely pace. That is, your manner when speaking should be earnest and genial. Another explanation is that you should use correct emphasis and pronounce clearly. The next verse says that you should not rush through your sentences, which corresponds to being earnest and genial. Nor should you mumble or garble your words, which corresponds to speaking with correct emphasis and pronouncing clearly.

　　从一个人讲话的态度，固然可以马上看出他的教养；从他讲话的语气、声调，更可以马上看出这个人的心情是好是坏，或紧张松，而善于相人的，听他的声音，还可以判断出这个人的性情与命运。

　　From the way a person speaks, one can immediately determine the way he was brought up. From his tone of voice, one can detect whether he is in a good mood or a bad one, and whether he is tense or relaxed. Those skilled in physiognomy can also read a person”s disposition and fate from hearing his voice.

　　中国春秋时代，楚国的令尹(相当于宰相的官职)公子子文是个出名的贤人。当他的弟弟司马(大将军，相当于国防部…

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