..续本文上一页仍然遭受着贫穷的折磨却再也没有理由去怀恨了。自从密勒日巴消除了他的仇恨，他伯父的态度也开始变得缓和。
His mother was already dead and his sister who was also afflicted by poverty had no reason to bear malice. Since Milarepa had overcome his tendency towards malice, the uncle”s atitude also declined.
随着时间的流逝，人们也开始明白密勒日巴当初为什么要那样做。在深深的自责下，密勒日巴也努力地去清除自己的罪行，并经历了修行佛法的众多困难。
As time passed by they too understood why Milarepa had done what he had done. With great remorse he purified his misdeeds and underwent the difficulties of practising the Dharma.
有一日，密勒日巴的姑母前来祈求原谅。那天当她到来时，密勒日巴正在说法。她远远的就被看见了，于是一场讨论就此展开。
One day, his aunt came to beg for forgiveness. On the day that she came Milarepa was giving a teaching. She could be seen coming from a distance and so a discussion ensued as to whether she should be let in or not.
密勒日巴的妹妹说，这位姑母曾经给他们带来了这么多的痛苦，如果允许姑母进来的话，那她最好还是离开。
Milarepa”s sister said that because she had caused so much torture, she”d leave if the aunt was allowed to come in.
关于这一段也是有很多说法，其中一个说法是，密勒日巴很和蔼地回答他的妹妹，说道：“如果你还有任何疑虑，我会答应你不让姑母进来。”但是考虑了一小会，基于佛法的观点，密勒日巴决定，不能舍弃他的姑母或者任何众生，无论是亲戚还是敌人，对所有众生都应该一视同仁，包括对他的姑母，也是一样。
Again, there are many versions to this tale but one says that Milarepa responded to his sister”s kindness by saying if she had any reservations that he”d agree with her and not let the aunt come in. Then on second thoughts and from the point of view of the dharma, he chose not to abandon his aunt or any sentient being, whether a close relative or an enemy but to look upon all beings, including his aunt, equally.
所以，密勒日巴让姑母进来，但并没有正面看她，而是隔着一块屏风和她说话。一开始，密勒日巴很严厉的提醒他的姑母，当他和妹妹没有食物的时候，她从来都没来过，也没有提供过任何食物，更不承认她是他们的姑母。
So he let her in but he didn”t see her face to face. He spoke to her indirectly through a screen. At first, he spoke very harshly reminding her of when he and his sister had no food that she never came and offered any food nor claim to be their aunt.
当密勒日巴说出这些字句(注：据《密勒日巴尊者传》记载，密勒日巴当时是以道歌的形式唱出这段话的)，她的姑母感到强烈的自责与后悔，并且由于她深深忏悔的力量，使她后来成为了密勒日巴杰出的弟子之一。
When Milarepa said these words she felt intense remorse and repented and due to the power of her deep regret she later became one of Milarepa”s most outstanding disciples.
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